By: Revanche

Just a little (link) love: raccoon + lab edition

September 7, 2017


Katharine Johnson, the NASA Mathematician Who Advanced Human Rights with a Slide Rule and Pencil – I should have learned about her at the same time I learned about NASA and our forays into space but I’m so glad to learn this now.

Tomorrow is definitely not promised – this is why I have to keep reminding myself over and over, tomorrow is not promised. We have to wring the most out of every day, today, that we can, make the most of it, best we can.

Ms FAF’s struggle to find the balance in their marriage with some commentary on Asian traditions that are really just misogyny run rampant. Though my parents managed to raise me as a total feminist and seemed to have a happy marriage, I remember there were times that I had to roll my eyes at the ingrained misogynistic attitudes.

Dad once told me that he gave up dancing because Mom didn’t like to do it, and he wouldn’t do it without her. He didn’t want her to be alone at night while he was out having fun, and particularly, with other women. It wouldn’t have looked or been right. Good story, right? He then tells me that if my husband doesn’t like fish sauce, I shouldn’t eat it either. He was (I don’t know WHY, it’s not like we had just met) shocked when I said that if my husband has an issue with my eating fish sauce just because he doesn’t like eating it, then he can go find himself another wife. There’s a huge difference in choosing, for yourself, to sacrifice for the good of your marriage and expecting your partner to give up something they enjoy when it has *absolutely no effect* on you. 

Thankfully, with a lot of work, patience, and a few misunderstandings on our learning curve, PiC and I do really well keeping equality in our relationship.

White Americans Have to Make a Choice. The fight over Confederate monuments is a fight over who this country is for. And only white Americans can end it. – hattip to Cloud for the link, Jemelle Bouie is right here.


I thought this was The Onion, but no: Terry Pratchett’s unfinished novels destroyed by steamroller

Lessons that more boys and men need to learn: feelings and emotions are part of being human. I may hate them but they’re essential to our ability to survive and be part of a functioning society. What is society without compassion? Not one I’d want to live in.

Mrs. Picky Pincher on Frugality Does Not Solve Poverty – tis true. I have lots and lots of thoughts on this and they’re slowly getting organized.

4 Responses to “Just a little (link) love: raccoon + lab edition”

  1. Thank you so much for the shout-out! I’m not a hard-core feminist, but I do think women are treated unfairly in many cases because men are misconceived as superior.

    I like fish sauce (I’m Vietnamese hehe). And I agree with you that if a man can’t stand the fact that I eat fish sauce, then maybe we’re not meant for each other.

    “[…]if my husband has an issue with my eating fish sauce just because he doesn’t like eating it, then he can go find himself another wife.”

    -> I would say the same thing to whoever thinks I need to bow down to my husband to keep him. I am willing to sacrifice for my marriage and family, but it has to be within reason. I only live once, and I don’t want to live under the shadow of someone else for the rest of my life.

    • Revanche says:

      You’re welcome!

      Fish sauce is the best! And if I can cook eggplant for my husband, and hand feed raisins to my child, then my husband can most certainly do the same for me with foods that I like but he doesn’t. It’s a sure sign of equality or inequality to me when spouses expect services and favors from the other spouse that they wouldn’t dream of doing themselves.

  2. (How does the raccoon get out of the pool?)
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