Just a little (link) love: Kids and Taboo subjects edition
March 14, 2019
What it’s like to win a lifetime supply of things.
Kassandra on money and life at midlife
The homeless situation in Los Angeles is getting worse and this part of it makes me extra peeved – who can keep up with that??: “From 2010 to 2018, median rental prices for a one-bedroom apartment in Los Angeles increased 84 percent, while median wages during the same period only rose 11 percent.”
Not so strangers: I have never considered that I’d be someone’s not so stranger, but mine are mostly dogs. I have a hard time recognizing humans if I don’t have an actual relationship with them.
I remember when @operaqueenie launched @Tinselwear, I thought it was very cool but I definitely wasn’t the market for it.
We didn’t have a special name for it but we grew up with the kunik. I wonder if this Inuit parenting style works as well in isolation rather than in a community.
Thank you for the link love and for your comment! I came to visit to see what your latest post was in order to share it via Twitter and surprise…I’m included! Merci beaucoup and have a lovely day.
You’re very welcome!
From the article about Inuit parenting styles: “With little kids, you often think they’re pushing your buttons, but that’s not what’s going on. They’re upset about something, and you have to figure out what it is.”
This is wonderful, and we definitely see it with Baguette. I stopped doing “traditional” time-outs with her pretty early on, because it was clear that they did not work. What I did instead (and sometimes still do, but it’s rare now) is to take her to another space to calm down–and I would stay with her. When I made her go on her own, she felt isolated and abandoned. When I go with her, she feels like she is safe and cared for, and she’s able to express what she needs to and them calm herself down. Maybe it takes a while, but it works. And over time she’s gotten much better at calming herself, or not getting upset to begin with.
That’s an insight that it feels like I should have had before but did need to hear – I’d like to try that with JB and see how it works.
I should say that it worked FOR US, and it’s not a quick fix, but it may be worth trying. And by “not quick,” I mean that it took a while for her to come out of the spiral, and I did this through a lot of incidents. But I do believe it made a huge difference for Baguette, and for our relationship.