Good Things Friday (176) and Link Love
July 8, 2022
1. I had one semi good parenting moment this week (month/year). JB sat and talked to me about an incident they didn’t feel good about and didn’t want to tell anyone else about.
I haven’t felt like a present or good enough parent in a really long time and I have deeply worried that that would affect their trust in me. Hell, it eroded my trust in me! But I suppose I was working from a lot less self trust to begin with.
2. We ran into a handful of old daycare friends this week and it was quite nice catching up with them.
3. Smol Acrobat’s willingness to wave goodbye to friends we know and love but they haven’t quite yet embraced was purchased with three snacks.
How to make someone known for going back on their promises put a big financial promise into writing. Wow did this one sting familiarly. Upfront, my parents only promised to pay for college and I didn’t even count on it so when they couldn’t, I was already working full time and covering my own expenses but I feel incredibly stupid for not seeing all the subsequent unfairness of using me to bail out my brother or leaning hard on me and not expecting one damn thing out of him for what it was.
I haven’t seen any threads doing this and I know pregnant people are terrified right now so here’s what I would tell a cash strapped pregnant friend to do, in order, if they needed a surgical procedure in a state with no clinics:
— Charlotte Shane (@CharoShane) June 26, 2022
“I said WE RIDE AT DAWN, NOBLE STEED!” https://t.co/jJmvclawiL
— Duchess of Austin (@AnnaDsays) July 1, 2022
Hurrah for your good parenting moment. I hope you created a special to-do list with that on out so you could check it off with gusto! I hope JB has situations like that very rarely.
I don’t dare put that on a list, I’m still too prone to beating myself up for the missed opportunities to do better right now 😬
Yay! What a beautiful, beautiful moment. <3
I had a similar one when Spud said something about being strong, so I launched into my spiel I like to tell him – you're so strong, so brave, so smart, so kind, so curious…
and then he said "And don't forget, so LOVED."
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Ohhhh, Spud! I love that!