My kid and notes from Year 2.2
May 17, 2017
Skills
Sleep routines
Our sleep routine is finally starting to settle down a bit – this month, ze hit a phase where it was ok to do the bath, books, song, bed routine, with two notable exceptions. Ze now insists that papa go clean up, while mama massages zir feet. It seems the memory of the massages I used to do before bed when ze first had an eczema break-out have stuck.
I can’t blame zir, if I could have a foot rub before sleeping every night, I’d demand it too!
But the one thing I’m finally remembering now is that sleep will always change. We’ll enjoy every full night of sleep we get and get through the rest.
Toilet training
Toilet training continues apace with some ups and downs. JuggerBaby has also fallen in love with Elmo of Sesame Street which means that if ze sees an Elmo on a diaper, even if it’s a swim diaper, ze quickly runs to change into that one. Thanks, Sesame Street.
Some days, ze is eager and happy to try the toilet, other days, you’d have to drag zir kicking and screaming. Like with the sleep, we just have to be patient and get through it day by day.
Table manners
On occasion, there are foods that JB doesn’t care for, or tasted and thinks is The Worst. Zir typical response is to hand the glob of half masticated gross back to me – I don’t want it!
We’ve been working on training zir to just set it in the corner of zir own plate or the edge of the bowl, instead.
It’s taken several weeks, but I think the lesson has finally sunk in. Instead of reacting like an enraged howler monkey when a bite of food isn’t pleasing, ze just calmly sets it aside and moves on. I think the key here is that we’ve not been harassing zir to eat everything on zir plate at every meal. That doesn’t seem like a battle worth fighting since ze is normally relaxed about trying out new foods. Turning it into a fight would probably mean that ze refuses to stay relaxed about trying since we’d be taking away zir ability to choose. Besides, generally, ze will return to previously rejected foods like asparagus and enjoy it.
One minute, please
JuggerBaby has been struggling with communication. Ze tries really hard to tell zir classmates what ze wants, or doesn’t want, but they don’t always understand or want to cooperate.
Bestie is great, though they have their little tiffs, ze understands JuggerBaby and they have a great system of trading. As an act of desperation, overseeing a small pack of 1-3 year olds, I taught JuggerBaby to ask zir companions to trade toys if they weren’t ready to give them up yet. It was a better approach than just trying to grab or yell MAH TUNE! (my turn!) when ze wants to play next. It worked when I was there to explain what trading meant, it didn’t work quite so well when ze offered up a trade item without explaining and trying to force the exchange. Luckily Bestie knows when JB offers an alternate toy, ze intends to trade, and will willingly trade back later if asked. So at least one kid understands zir!
The great thing that came out of our parent teacher conference, though, was the two-minute concept.
I use a one-minute version of it at home. When ze is being especially rambunctious and needs to be chased down and tackled, you still can’t force arms and legs into flailing limbs without growing a third one of your own! To ask JB to cooperate, I’ll say “it’s Mom’s turn for one minute, ok?” and VOILA! Ze will actually stop fighting and comply! It’s a tiny magic bullet in parenting.
Things we bought
Our pediatrician has never suggested that we buy anything specific for JuggerBaby, he’s a very mellow and go-with-the-flow kind of doctor, but my GP made some great suggestions for our travel planning.
Water wow
The color is already embedded in the pages, all the kid has to do is brush water on the page and then colors appear!
JuggerBaby LOVES watercolors already, but there’s no way I’m flying with, and juggling, watercolor paints on a plane. Granted, this does nothing for teaching them to actually color creatively but that’s what a handful of crayons and blank pages are for. It’s also a reusable book so we don’t have to just use it and discard it, which pleases the Good Steward in me.
Reusable sticker scenes
Ze recently came into a small trove of puffy or fuzzy stickers and has been carefully sticking and unsticking it on various locations in the house. I’m pretty sure there’s a fuzzy dino stuck to my desk right now. Ze still tries to eat regular stickers, of course. Because OF COURSE.
Favorite books
This massive list is for Penny to help her with Half Penny’s library.
Little Golden Book: My first counting book: This was a new addition to our library and we had to read it three times a day, every day.
Nursery Rhyme Comics: 50 Timeless Rhymes from 50 Celebrated Cartoonists: Ze has finally picked some favorites so we don’t have to read ALL FIFTY NURSERY RHYMES daily. Whew.
Dr. Seuss’s ABC (Beginner Books, I Can Read It All By Myself): This is a car-favorite as well.
If You Give a Mouse a Cookie: We read a lot, can you tell? Ze asks for this at least five times per weekend.
If You Give a Moose a Muffin: We’re not a fan of this book, or the Pig story, because the animals seem like such takers but we use the opportunity to remind JuggerBaby that just because someone asks you for increasingly ridiculous things, you are not obligated to satisfy the request! Also, don’t feed the wildlife.
Dr. Seuss’s ABC: An Amazing Alphabet Book: It’s not clear what ze loves about this book now that ze knows zir letters, mostly, but still, we read it.
The Foot Book: Dr. Seuss’s Wacky Book of Opposites
Big Dog . . . Little Dog: Bit of a silly read but ze likes it.
Go, Dog. Go!: This is where JuggerBaby learned “red light means stop!” It’s a useful phrase for a toddler bent on destruction.
Oh, the Places You’ll Go!: A fan favorite, though ze hasn’t tried to read it by zirself yet.
Pulelehua and Mamaki: A wonderful book about the Kamehameha butterfly from Hawaii.
Penguin on Vacation: We like these books in English or any other language we can get them.
Penguin and Pinecone
Beep! Beep! Go to Sleep!: JuggerBaby can’t help but yell along with this one.
There’s a Wocket in My Pocket! An early favorite with stamina. We read this in the car a lot.
I Thought I Heard a Tiger Roar (Light Up the Mind of a Child Series): We don’t love reading this but JuggerBaby picks it at least three times a week so what do we know?
I am Amelia Earhart (Ordinary People Change the World): Technically for older readers but JB enjoys it.
I am Rosa Parks (Ordinary People Change the World): Again, for older readers, but you can tell JB is following the narrative, and feels strongly about the racism described. We also tell zir about the ongoing struggles with racism that we see today.
Down at the Beach: A delightful gift from a friend, this is read to the tune of “Wheels on the Bus”.
For children’s books, anything Kevin Henkes. “Owen” is an oldie but goodie that I love.
Thanks!
Elmo underpants?
Ze isn’t ready for underpants yet. I’m also hoping to avoid letting zir get too enamored with characters and brands that are marketed to children to the nth degree.
Thank goodness I worked for the bookstore when Little Bit was born, otherwise, we’d have gone broke from books.
She loved all the Laura Numeroff books, especially Chimps Don’t Wear Glasses. She enjoyed Doctor Suess and adored the Karl series (no words, so we had to tell her the story from the pictures). Her other favorites at 2 were Jamberry (it’s really fun to read!), Cat Secrets, The Monkey with the Bright Blue Bottom, Goodnight Moon, and Mama Robot.
Our favorites to read to her were Llama Llama Red Pajama, Hand Hand Fingers Thumb (with tummy drumming), The Runaway Bunny, and Goodnight Goon (the Halloween version of Goodnight Moon.) Notice they aren’t quite the same?
That’s how I felt about having dogs and working with animal healthcare. I’ve often thought about going to work for a bookstore solely for the discount 🙂
We have Jamberry, Hand Hand Fingers Thumb, and one of the Karl books, too! That makes me think JB would love Little Bit’s library.
We really like the pop up books for my 18 month old son. He loves seeing the images pop up in 3D. Although I have to admit that he has a short attention span. So he normally picks up the books and then throws them all over the place. Hopefully he develops a love of reading down the road 🙂
Your son doesn’t rip out the 3-D pictures? JuggerBaby ALWAYS tries to tear them, intentionally or not, so they don’t last long here 🙂
I read somewhere, early on, that the idea of trading was easier for kids to grasp than sharing. So I started with trading, and I would talk about why Baguette was getting a good trade (often she wasn’t, but I wanted to get something away from her, and trading let me do that without distress on either side). She got the idea really quickly, and we added sharing and taking turns later.
That’s a great list of books (Penguin!) . Baguette loves Dr. Seuss (One Fish, Two Fish is her favorite), and The Sleep Book often helps her nod off. She also likes anything by Sandra Boynton; The Monster at the End of This Book; Bears in the Night; and Go Away, Big Green Monster. I really like Dragons Love Tacos, and am wont to read it in the voice of a reporter in a 1930s screwball comedy.
You know, I didn’t realize that trading is conceptually easier for kids to understand but it seems less contrary to instinct!
She’s also doing ok with taking turns now but it was pretty hard for her.
Sandra Boyton is a real hit with the kids, isn’t she? Dragons Love Tacos just sounds like a great book based on the title alone.