Just a little (link) love: Mine! edition
June 7, 2018
Scalzi on coolness vs not coolness. This is exactly how I’ve been thinking of the cool / not cool designations in our friend groups! But it does leave me I’m confused where I go because I’m definitely not cool (people don’t expend energy coming to me, by and large), am very ok with that not-coolness, but also don’t put energy out to draw people in, either.
Do you know what you’re looking for in your next job?
HBR: A six-episode podcast discussing issues around being a woman at work.
The 9.5 earthquake in Chile, in 1960. And a tweet thread talking about it from a local perspective, in Spanish (Twitter should offer a translation option)
Female friendship is awesome.
What to tell your child when their grandparent is racist.
Not due to racism, obviously, but JB doesn’t have much of a relationship with my Dad right now. It wasn’t due to lack of effort on our part at first but I’ve stopped trying. Ze doesn’t seem to notice that my parent isn’t in zir life. Ze has noticed that ze hasn’t met my mom and knows that she’s dead but perhaps due to age, or because I’ve supplied multiple surrogates. I am maintaining a policy of not lying but am working on giving zir more neutral and graspable answers suitable for a 3 year old.
Possessive Parent
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ā Puppies š¶ (@PopularPups) June 6, 2018
Thanks for the link!
I love the female friendship post! Going on a tangent: I feel like as a society we overrate romantic relationships vs friendships. I feel like this is even worse for men than for women. I remember talking with my fiance about how even with his closest friends, there are a lot of things he doesn’t talk about (stuff I wouldn’t think twice about discussing with either my male or female friends). I think a lot of men are socialized not to talk about their feelings outside their romantic relationships, which seems like a hard way to live and be. It makes me really grateful that our culture supports strong female friendships.
You’re welcome!
I agree, society spends way too much time focused on romantic relationships while friendships have far more value in our lives in the long run. And thinking of the iconic Friends show, even they wasted a lot of screen time on romantic relationships and perpetuating unhealthy notions (Ross – the biggest git) about what constitutes real romance or love.
Can’t wait to listen to some of the HBR podcast you linked! I’m currently very interested in reading about how couples manage dual careers or alternative choices.
Thanks for the good links this week, as usual!
Hope you enjoy it!