Just a little (link) love: owl delivery edition
June 14, 2018
Small win: We had an extra long stretch on the social calendar in addition to my tripled workload. It was touch and go whether I’d make it through without blowing my top. I made it!!
What were your wins this week?
I’m thrilled for Stacking Pennies, one of my original early days money blogging friends. She is expecting!
Dr. Chanda Prescod-Weinstein on finding a mentor and respecting that relationship
The Fuck-over-ability Index: As a manager, I definitely don’t pry into my people’s lives or encourage them to overcommit financially so we can overwork them. That’s messed up. I expect them to do a great job because that’s the job while I do my best to compensate them fairly and treat them well. And regardless, I expect that attrition will happen because that’s how it works.
The quiz was reasonably accurate for us though. I scored a 22: You can push back on your boss if they’re being totally unreasonable without fear of immediately going into financial ruin if you lose your job.
Waffles on Wednesday talks privilege. I like it when people are willing to speak on this, and when we practice gratitude for our many advantages and blessings.
A trustworthy immigration lawyer I know vouches for this group of lawyers fundraising to litigate against Jeff Sessions. If you can support them, that would be a tangible way to fight the ongoing horribleness with immigration in the US.
Sandy dug into the fine print of the Tulsa Real Estate Fund and points out some very valid concerns. It would be awesome for this fund to succeed, but as a mentor and I lamented, not on the backs of our own people (respectively). We see investing schemes and money advice that are about exploiting the community rather than building it up and it’s highly concerning because there are a lot of people trying to make their financial situations a little better, and a lot of people out there to take advantage of the shared connections, to take advantage of them. I truly hope they make some minor changes to ensure that doesn’t play out here.
Hawaii is still safe to visit, overall. Vog is annoying but it’s always been there in some form or another.
Anthony Bourdain’s passing saddened me, he was such a creative thinker and I admired his risk taking and unique perspectives. One of the reasons I liked Anthony Bourdain (as much as you can like someone you’ve never met) is because I admired his ability to deal with his own pain and anger without projecting it on others, and instead trying to portray the humanity of cultures that were not his own without trying to look superior or like he’s the first to discover them. There was no appropriation or disrespect, it was entirely the opposite, and that was refreshing.
Late edit to add Solitary Diner’s thoughts on the passing of Anthony Bourdain.
That index was weird because it didn’t take into account dual-earner couples. Like, either my DH or I could quit and we’d still be able to cover our needs and many of our wants. Similarly, if a couple has a SAHP, that person can go back into the labor force if the other member needs to quit. (Basically, if your spending commitments aren’t greater than or equal to your joint earnings power, you have more wiggle-room.) There’s also the “how marketable am I to other companies” question and “how easy am I to replace”.
I ignored that lack because I never take that into account when considering my workplace vulnerability – cynicism, perhaps? (Probably)
Hmm apparently we are at 15, will go up to 20 once this child emerges…?
Bourdain’s shows were my fave food shows, honestly. :((((
Win this week – resolving a customer facing issue despite no help from departments who should have been taking responsbility for it.
Did you take T’s income into account for that, like Nicole&Maggie mentioned above? I didn’t.
I’m always shocked as well as saddened when someone who has enjoyed tremendous success – especially in such a cool way as Anthony Bourdain did – decides to take his or her own life. Kindness is the only response I can think of. I don’t think that understanding can ever fully be achieved.
Depression is a very tough beast to wrangle, I wish he could have stayed but I can understand the demons that may have made him feel it was better to go. I’ve been there.
The idea behind the The Fuck-over-ability Index is disturbing, and I’m glad I don’t work in a culture like this. I think it is way less common than the star of that post seemed to think for managers to consider this. An environment of mutual respect is much better!
Thanks for the link!
It IS disturbing! I don’t think I’ve seen it blatantly before but I have worked with managers who would have gone that route if they were inventive enough.
I was also gutted to hear about Anthony Bourdain. His shows were wonderful, and his respect for other cultures and people was so important.
Yes – that respect is rare!