About sixteen years ago, I met him for the first time. My trainwreck sibling brought home this adorable puppy he had no business adopting because he had not one thing in his life that wasn’t a mess. I was furious at my sibling – he didn’t even take care of himself, how could he drag
Dividend income. We received $291.40 in dividends this month. I reinvest all our dividends into new stocks or move the cash out to be invested into index funds.
Costco Cash Card. Costco was prompt in sending us the cash card for our furnace. Thank goodness! This cashback brings our ghastly total down to around $13,000 (not counting the asbestos cost that was nearly $2000 and has been negotiated down to $1200).
Craigslist sale. +$40. I’m grateful PiC is still able to work on these sales a little at a time even though we’re in over our heads with work. My own sales have petered out pretty badly and I think it’s time to donate all that “inventory”, I gave it a good try.
This brought tears to my eyes: In “The Barefoot Woman,” Mukasonga’s latest book, translated from the French into English by Jordan Stump, she attempts to fulfill her daughterly duty: “Mama, I wasn’t there to cover your body, and all I have left is words — words in a language you didn’t understand — to do as you asked. And I’m all alone with my feeble words, and on the pages of my notebook, over and over, my sentences weave a shroud for your missing body.”
From earlier this year, Kristi Yamaguchi, Unlaced: On the eve of the National Championships, Nicole Chung and champion skater Kristi Yamaguchi discuss life after the Olympics, what it means to be ‘the first,’ and the state of figure skating in 2018.
I’d never heard of Direct Air before this article, and I’m glad I hadn’t! What terrible people.
My empathies to Joe’s family as they are dealing with a rough situation with his mom’s dementia. Brings back some bad memories for me since it happened when we were much more precarious financially and didn’t have the resources to get her a better caretaker than us. I am glad that Joe is in a much better position than we were in.
Daniel José Older Half-Resurrection Blues Midnight Taxi Tango MANY thumbs up. Annoyed with myself for not requesting that the library buy all three in the Bone Street Rumba series because I didn’t realize #3 (Battle Hill Bolero) was out! I have fixed that mistake but still waiting on the library to actually buy it. Seanan McGuire Discount Armageddon Midnight Blue-Light Special Half–OffRagnarok Pocket Apocalypse MANY thumbs up. I want more. I keep thinking over how to fund cryptozoologists so they can do the crypto part of their job without having to work a day job. Passive income FTW!
Tomi Adeyemi, Children of Blood and Bone MANY thumbs up. I knew this was going to be good. It was EXCELLENT.
Gregory Harris, The Bellingham Bloodbath
Interesting enough I’d like to read more of the series.
Imogen Hermes Gowar, The Mermaid and Mrs. Hancock
Not my usual genre but very engaging and well written. I was mildly stressed hoping the characters would make good decisions. It was solid but I didn’t really enjoy the experience so wouldn’t read it again.
Danette Haworth, A Whole Lot of Lucky
A totally random middle school pick from the library because none of my books were available. It was about a poor kid whose family wins the lottery and I was reasonably impressed with how the parents dealt with the windfall. Less so with the kid but I’ve always struggled to relate to normal kids so this isn’t a surprise. Overall, pretty well written.
Amanda Bouchet, A Promise of Fire (The Kingmaker Chronicles Series, Book 1)
Breath of Fire (The Kingmaker Chronicles Series, Book 2)
Heart on Fire (The Kingmaker Chronicles Series, Book 3)
Beverly Cleary, Ramona and Her Mother (Ramona Quimby Series, Book 5)
A little trip down memory lane.
Kelly Barnhill, The Witch’s Boy
The Girl Who Drank the Moon
Both of these were really well written and I would definitely recommend them.
Mercedes Lackey, Blood Red (Elemental Masters Series, Book 10)
Bastion (Valdemar: The Collegium Chronicles, Book 5)
Hunter (Hunter Series, Book 1)
I’ve always enjoyed this series and really particularly liked this take on Little Red Riding Hood. I don’t love the Valdemar books anymore after thinking about the Companions and kidnapping to impress citizens into the service of the government buuuut I needed a book to read.
Where we went
We finally made it down to Monterey for a short weekend trip and tried a new place in Pacific Grove, escaping a little bit from the fires and visiting a friend.
The Deer Haven Inn was a very basic but nice enough place to hang out for a night and day while we escaped the massive fires and the toxic air from up North. We loved our little fireplace and had take out on the beds which we never ever do. I had hoped to see some deer hanging out near the inn but instead we were startled by them wandering around the roads in the pitch dark! It was pure luck that we didn’t hit any. Be careful what you wish for and all that. Unfortunately our usual fantastic Mexican food place that we eat at almost every time we’re in Monterey really didn’t come through. Everything we had was dry, or oversauced, and disappointing. Darn.
What I watched
The Good Place. I’d seen advertisements for this show all over the place at SDCC but since there are only about a billion things vying for our attention, I didn’t think twice about it. I do like Kristen Bell a lot so that should have been a warning flag that I’d like it but I randomly found it on Netflix one day and it is fantastic.
Grimm. I’d enjoyed Grimm the first time around but didn’t watch it all way through when it was still live. This has an entire cast of supporting characters I loved. The main character was fine but my favorites were the supporting characters: Munroe, Rosalie, Sergeant Wu, Hank, I loved. Juliette and the Captain, I liked. Adalind I had trouble liking both times around, but for different reasons.
What I did
I picked up needle and thread for fun this fall and while my stitches are laughably uneven, I’ve really enjoyed it as a hobby. Inspired by Kristine at Frugasaurus, I’ve been making drawstring bags. It’s very weird to have a hobby that costs money but it’s also oddly soothing. Is this what they call relaxing?
I always wanted to get back to my childhood ideal of three dogs and I have finally realized …. my dream is not for me anymore.
Six months into an expanded pack of two medium-large dogs and one human child, we barely fit on a sidewalk anymore. That might be the most superficial reason but we walk the dogs 3-4 times a day. It’s kind of a pain not fitting on the sidewalk together when you have to keep an eye on everyone, make sure everyone is safe on the sidewalk and not popping into the street, running off, or chasing after SQUIRREL! Not that Seamus would ever dream of doing such a thing.
Sera, though, is a bit of work. She’s basically got the template of a pretty good dog: she sort of tries to listen to our training, she puts up with all of JB’s demands (SIT! No, REAL SIT!), is reasonably calm pottering around the house during my work routine of work / walk, eat / work, which translates to sleep / walk, eat / sleep, for the dogs. She’s not overly attention-needy, not highly destructive.
BUT: she’s still terrible on lead. She pulls hard, though she has finally settled down to an acceptable distance-from-human, still can’t even beging to contain herself when she sees other dogs on leash across the street and wildly overreacts. I’m talking about ruff rising, and after a prolonged period of alert staring, lunging. It’s a good thing I am used to holding back about a hundred pounds of over excited dog at any given time but it takes my entire body and a really good leash.
She’s made hugely questionable eating choices (coprophagy happened a couple of times gross gross gross). When she got bored when we were away ah hour longer than usual, she’s selected a few items from our living room or from one of our bags to rend and destroy. That’s mostly annoying but there was one time she had snagged a battery out of one of our bags, we didn’t even remember it was in there! and thankfully just left it under the dining table instead of chewing on it. I was horrified at the bullet dodged there and we started the hunt for a crate because we couldn’t risk that again. (Why, Sera? Seamus just sleeps, why can’t you do the same??) And of course she generally took to crate training ok BUT she can’t just be good about it. She’s found ways to break out while we’re gone.
She’s impolite – she would sneak Seamus’s food right from under his head if we let her (we don’t), and frequently uses him as a warming blanket / bedmate when he clearly would like a little space. Then there was the time I left salmon defrosting far back on the counter, even Seamus with his six extra inches of height and 10 inches of length couldn’t easily reached it. She must have bounced up there like a deranged Tigger because we came home to a piece of foil licked clean instead of a dinner ready to cook. I was FURIOUS. Salmon is expensive and we were already running late. I whipped up a second dinner but that was the last straw.
Now she’s partially crate-trained and locked in her crate whenever we leave home because it’s safer that way for everyone. We manage all of these behaviors to keep everyone safe and happy but it’s a lot more effort than we ever needed to put in with Doggle or Seamus. We’ve been spoiled by really good dogs, maybe, but none of my past dogs did any of these things.
The most difficult part of it all for me personally isn’t the behaviors. We can work with those. It’s the fact that I don’t think she actually likes any of us. She’s ok with us, and learning to trust us, but even the most abused pup we’ve rescued in the past has formed a warm emotional bond with one of the family within a few months. She has not. She cuddles with Seamus for warmth, she accepts pets and skritches, but she doesn’t have any affection for us. She just wants the good food and good beds we provide. For that, we might as well have adopted a cat! I love cats, I know what to expect from them. But from a dog, I expect them to love someone in the family. But there’s time yet. I hope she decides to like at least one of us.
I want JB to think about what we read, so as much as I can, when we’re reading stories that don’t necessarily have the kind of message I want zir to take away, we ask a lot of questions.
For example, a Disney book from Grandma had a story about Snow White and Prince Charming. Prince Charming wants to give Snow the perfect gift to show his love. I ask: Do we need to buy people fancy or expensive things to show them that we love them? (No.) Do hugs and kisses and telling you “I love you” work to show that we love you very much? (Yes.)
Honestly I’m not sure how much critical thinking is happening here but we are doing our best to nudge it into blooming.
Screen time
We still limit screen time to the weekends only and in fact, just after dinner on the weekend when I’m not so exhausted all day that I have to lean on the tv for a break. Now that ze can entertain zirself in hours of play, we can limit the viewing to just a few hours a weekend total spread out across a few days, if that much. We do strictly limit it to shows that JB can handle. Ze is not allowed to watch Coco anymore despite how much we all love the music and beautiful art because ze mimics Miguel’s rebellion and talking back and we can’t have that 8 year old back talk at age 3. We love Hilda on Netflix right now, it feels very Swedish though it isn’t, and zir Uncle recently said that he and Auntie were enjoying My Little Pony lately so we gave that a try. (more…)
RB40 asked: “Do you feel guilty for not giving your family the best when you can?”
(He’s talking about material things.) Nope, because I do give them the best I can. It’s just that to me, the best doesn’t mean the most expensive or what other people think is the best. The best is the thing that serves the purpose well without generating unnecessary waste. What do you think?
Related to that, Matt talks about how to be happy and you might notice that buying it isn’t a good long term plan for that sort of thing. There is a threshold where money makes a real difference, but after all our needs and most of our reasonable wants are covered, I want myself and my family to embrace gratitude and contentment, and not have to keep chasing the next high.
Why do you tell your story? Good question! It used to be because I didn’t have enough people to discuss money with but that’s less true these days.
What a litter!
The most popular videos of 2018: Golden retriever mother takes tiger, lion and hyena cubs as her own pic.twitter.com/VhnZtYPNHn
As the holidays and focus on gift giving ramps up (we have some obligatory gift exchanges), I like to review my purchases from the past year (and sometimes from the past few years if they were that good) to see if they held up to the expectations.
Last year: This was a rare impulse buy but I adore my Owl Silicone Coin Purse and so do the dogs. It’s one of the few things I’ve bought solely because it was too cute to pass up, not because it was a gift or because I had a purpose in mind. Three months after buying it, inspiration struck and it became my dog treat pouch – something I’ve needed for years! With silicone, there’s no worry the treats will stain and it’s airtight enough that the tiny treats don’t dry out overnight.
Last year: I have the sold out dachshund puppy pouch but I adore the Catseye London zip pouches. They’re so thick and sturdy, mine survived a ten month loan to JB.
Last year: I still adore my only full price clothing purchase: Barefoot Dreams Circle Cardigan. I’ve worn it multiple times every week since buying it last year and it holds up. Of course it gets furry because I keep forgetting and hugging the dogs but it machine washes just fine.
This year: $7 of fabric purchased on Thanksgiving weekend at 70% off. I’ve started hand sewing again this year and I’m really enjoying the act of creating something useful though my skills are quite limited to just an almost straight seam and a backstitch.
PiC
This year: An expensive piece of sporting equipment that I’d managed to forget about because 2018 has felt like a DECADE.
On Money
What I read
