Good Things Friday (8)
April 5, 2019
1. Friday: It was such a tough week and I survived!!!! It was touch and go for a while.
2. Saturday: Finally dabbled a little bit in our maths to find our a possible retirement age. Not far enough along to be anywhere yet but I touched it! I’ve put this off for three years.
3. Saturday: I watched three kids alone for a while and cooked. Everyone was alive and the food was good.
4. Sunday: Gorgeous clear skies and a warm 🌞 day.
5. Monday: I couldn’t find anything good on this day except the knowledge I have a long overdue massage scheduled this week. Focusing on that.
6. Tuesday: Oops. Saturday’s dabbling made me stand on the edge of our money universe and become totally overwhelmed by all the work we have left to do and the longing to be done. My money anxiety hit an all time high because of it. Reading Kristine and Tanja really helped me reset my perspective and mode of thinking to a calmer one. Now I know why I kept ignoring setting an FI number.
7. Wednesday: It’s been a monumental struggle for months to wake up before 7 am despite alarms starting at 6:30. A combination of sleep deprivation due to painsomnia and regular insomnia, and sleep aids not aiding, meant we were always starting our mornings behind the eight ball every single day. Talk about starting up stressed.
Today was the second day I managed to go to sleep early enough the night before and sleep through most of the night with only two nightmare calls from JB and get out of bed a shade before 7. I call that victory.
8. Wednesday: Lots of small and big pieces fell into place. Despite a packed day and not getting nearly enough work done, I resolved to get JB home early and I did. Since we had plenty of dinner leftovers from Tuesday, dinner was on the table before 7. We got JB in bed by 8. Small victories, huge effects, much relished.
9. Thursday: Another really tough work day but I managed to get through a larger portion of my backlog than expected. Huzzah!
:: How was your week? What were some good things that happened?
Having kids over is great. They keep each other occupied and I don’t have to supervise them much. It’s way easier than watching just my son.
I had a tough week too. A bicycle rear-ended my car and made a big hole and dents. I also found a big hole in the ceiling at my rental condo. The unit above is leaking water and I’ll have to replace the ceiling in the bathroom. Ugh! I’m all stressed out. They also made a big hole in the closet door which is non-standard size. It will have to be custom made. Hopefully, life will be more normal next week.
How fast was that bike GOING to leave a dent in your car?? And how does insurance even deal with that? So weird.
Goodness, what a mess at the rental – good luck with fixing all that!
I don’t have an FI number or plan yet, because it is still too far away that a detailed plan would only frustrate me. Save as much as possible and make strategic choices to maximize future options is as much as a plan as I need for now.
Once we find out whether T gets tenure, it is time for a more serious conversation about what he / we want out of life. For us both to retire, staying in this area makes no sense. We could afford for ME to not work, but the motivation to make that call is not high. It’s a little higher for me, but still not yet high enough. He’s not quite on board with the concept of retiring extremely early yet. This is kind of irrelevant until we are reasonably close, so we have years to converse about it.
Anyway, good things this week…. My dad finally left town to return home, and will stop invading our house and messing up stuff and breaking things every weekend, hahaha. (Exaggeration, but after nearly 5 months, he was wearing out his welcome a bit, especially since I went back to work.) Baby girl slept well on Wednesday night, which is always great. My MIL arrived for a visit, and it is going well so far!
Honestly I’m far enough away that I think it’s still irrelevant for us to some degree but I started crunching the numbers because we have to make a final call on some big life questions and PiC was interested to know how it might affect our final date (which I didn’t have!)
I don’t think retiring in 40s and 50s is extremely early though, in part because it’s not that far from the standard 65 but also in part because I have that feeling about 55 being death in the back of my mind and haven’t totally banished it yet. I’m still planning for a long life possibility but I know that influences how I feel about it.
Yay for all your good things – sleeping well, getting your home back, and having a new visitor 😀
I had a playdate with former neighbors that made me quite happy. Over the years I have had several ‘friendships’ fade out because I was the only one putting in the effort to maintain them. But these friends seem as interested in keeping close as we are, and that feels SO good!
I printed a 360-block chart to track our mortgage progress. It’s a little disappointing to not even be able to color one complete line yet, but it’s a tangible, visible reminder that we ARE on track to get there eventually! Oooo I should use a tiny piece of Post-It note to show where we’re projected to be debt-free again. That will happen even sooner than payoff!
Reciprocal friendships are so important! I find it’s a bit hard to find that balance on both sides so it’s awfully nice when you do find it.
I’m tempted to try the 360 block chart too – just to see if it would be motivational or depressing 😀
Yay for being debt free before that though.
My body requires regular massage therapy and it is most definitely the highlight of my month. My massage therapist has also become a counselor of sorts for me. She knows all about my life, my family and so much else. I am forever grateful that I found her services. I’ve been seeing her since 2007! Do you talk to your massage therapist or do you prefer to stay quiet?
I wonder about how other people do massages too. As much as I intend to relax quietly, I really like this new therapist and we talk a lot. I share my thoughts and I enjoy her stories.