Good Things Friday (59)
April 3, 2020
If you’d like to join me in helping Lakota families and/or rural libraries this year, please read this post. Over 6 weeks in 2019, we raised $2669.94 for the Lakota families, touching 27 lives. What can we do in 2020?
Current total: Lakota, $640.74; Rural libraries, $321.62.
1. It looks like we’re shut down through May. Being a pessimist who was expecting that (and for it to go longer) sort of helps.
Challenges this week: PiC’s hands are healing very slowly which is frustrating and worrisome, my fatigue is off the charts.
2. We had an online “party” with aunties and uncles for an auntie’s birthday on the weekend and it was fun.
3. That constant urge to buy (probably stress shopping) has faded for a little bit. I’m grateful for however long it lasts.
4. My brain therapy session helped me work through the feelings and difficulty I’m having in supporting a loved one because it’s bringing up bad memories of being the child of a narcissistic user. I chose to support them and always will but I am more cognizant of the need to have some boundaries and the need to step back sometimes so I am not giving everyone else everything and leaving nothing for myself. This is a new realization and a work in progress.
5. JB still seems to be handling the adjustment to our not-quite routine well. I am sure that it helps that they’re getting all kinds of treats they normally wouldn’t: no getting sent off to school at somewhat rigid times, lots and lots of free choice and art time, screen time with every dinner (usually educational but just fun on the weekends.) They generally benefit a lot from daycare programming in terms of education but they have also been attending year round for years with only winter break and a couple of weeks in the summer off. This is kind of the equivalent of their first summer break from a school routine, even though their scope is seriously limited.
Our state seems to be doing well so although our lockdown is also confirmed through May, at least we’re projected to have a low death toll to go with it. I think I’ve worked through the first round of anxiety/stress, so now that I’m coming out of my exhausted slump I’m trying to start improving our daily & weekly routines.
Sorry to hear about PiC’s hands. Glad to hear ‘brain work’ is helping you though! Trying to set boundaries is tough, especially when you spent childhood being carefully trained NOT to have them.
We are healthy and sticking with proper lockdown everything.
I am struggling with no work for me/ husband working from home/ keep kid busy with no daycare. I miss my job. And, dear God, I miss being able to focus on my own thing for hours at a stretch.
One of the weekly routines I want to implement is a scheduled “night off” for each parent each week. 2.5 solid hours to do anything – or absolutely nothing at all – while the other parent is “on duty” for whatever the kids need. It’s not much but in this crazy situation I’ll take what I can get!
That is a lovely idea!
I’m so glad you’re all healthy, and my deepest sympathies on the combo you’re living with. I know it’s not easy in the least.