WiseBread’s Job-Search Romance post made me laugh.
No small feat considering how fraught with stress the job-hunt life tends to be, but the timing was just right as I’d just likened the post-interview process to dating in a private conversation:
If I call them before it’s “late,” when they were clear about their response timeline, I destabilize the dynamics. Post (what seemed like) a strong interview, they’ve got to make up their minds to want me. And if they want me, they’ll come calling, not just leave me hanging. If I have to beg them to want me, the chemistry wasn’t there and, by Jove, neither will it be in my favor for negotiations!
As Julie notes, “Often, there is little you can do to make the employer love you if you’re not the one.”
At the end of the day, do you want to have spent your time slaving for the affections of the one who just kind-of, sort-of liked you? Or do you want to have a dynamic, thriving relationship based on mutual goals and admiration?
WellHeeled rightly points out, “a romance isn’t responsible for PAYING THE BILLS.” Of all people, I know that. But there’s at least a little room for idealism in the world. And there’s still some room in my budget to pursue a combination of that hope and my normal brand of pragmatism.
After all, if I don’t value myself as the proven high-performer that I have been, why should they?
Of course I want a job, but I don’t want just any job, I need a job that wants and values me/my work.
Edited to add a link to a Forbes article: Why Job-Seeking is just like Dating