June 22, 2017

Just a little (link) love: Your Playbook For Tough Times, Vol. 2 edition


I shouldn’t be this bad at self care but I am. Takes a lot of reminders to keep at it.

Stop Saying ‘Drink the Kool-Aid’

I always knew mushrooms were untrustworthy. This year’s rains have led to more poisonous mushrooms sprouting.

A Malaysian-Auntie Jaeger story!

What is it with men who think that No really means “keep trying to convince me that I want to do something that I have no interest in, and if you pester me enough and buy me the gear, I will suddenly sprout expertise and interest in that thing”? I haven’t had too many interactions like this but I’ve had a few, and it’s Awkward as HECK.

The Beatrice Six and how memories can be implanted

Your Playbook For Tough Times, Vol. 2

Donna’s done it again! She’s created a second volume of her book on living frugally and getting the most of our lives.

If you’re interested in realistic tactics and actionable advice, you’ve come to the right place.

A popular statistic has been floating around the blogosphere this year: “According to a report from the Federal Reserve, 52 percent of U.S. residents would be unable to come up with $400 in an emergency.” This is a bit alarming since we know that $400 isn’t that much money in the grand scheme of things but if you don’t have it, it’s everything.

Now for the fun part! She’s been kind enough to offer a free copy of her book to my readers, and a discount code for those of you who are interested but don’t win.

To enter, please leave me a comment and let me know what you’re going to do for fun or money this coming week! Make sure you include an email address so we can contact you. 

Winner will be picked and announced in next Thursday’s link love post. 

June 15, 2017

Just a little (link) love: jumping edition


I was trying to define success for myself and I like this: “Real success has to do with the power you build in yourself, power that no one conferred on you and no one can take away from you.”

Using this list, I’m 4/5 of the way to successful by the Forbes article’s definition. I could use a bit more of 2 and 4. 2 – I’m still looking for what I want to do long term other than be rich, canny, and philanthropic. 😁

Does anyone remember Atari? And the E.T. Game? NPR interviews the game creator who explained how the game came about and financial impact on his life. My favorite quote:

Until one day, I really had a sit-down with myself, and I said, ‘You know, the IRS can only take my money. That’s really all they can do. If I give them my happiness, that’s on me.’

We need to do better about teaching the history of colonialism and the California missions.

The Massachusetts answer to online sales tax losses is … weird.

Speaking of whitewashed history, Robert E Lee was a horrible person. “White supremacy was one of Lee’s most fundamental convictions.

The Original Superman Still Knows How to Embarrass Batman

So THAT’s how dogs know what time it is! I always marveled at how Seamus knew exactly what time it was: “Time quite literally smells different throughout the day. Morning has a different scent from afternoon, which smells different from night-time. The canine nose is so sensitive that dogs can determine the difference between 5pm and 6pm, the time when your partner’s car rolls into the driveway every weekday.


June 8, 2017

Just a little (link) love: jellyfish taxi edition


Video of Cuttlefish Battle


Gwen’s my kind of landlord – she’s doing house renovations the right way IMO.

Penny asked: Are gendered emails a thing? I’m not sure. In the past month I’ve received 4 abject apology emails (only one of them was warranted), and 2 emails overexplaining that they weren’t able to deliver the expected work on time because of a death in the family, and because of toddlers running them ragged. They were all from men. That was an interesting sample set but I’m not sure that it’s representative.

Did you ever have your Sliding Doors moment like the ONLs did? I see how this has happened with my friends who stayed in the expensive NYC / Boston metro areas – nannies, 5000+ square foot estates, and all that fun stuff. They can afford it on their massive incomes but I don’t know whether they can afford that PLUS the kind of retirement they might want to have, without working.

This article describes the devastating fear, ignorance, and the silence in the Asian American community in dealing with mental illness. This is a stiflingly familiar situation that I’ve faced with my sibling and cousins. But I think this sentence also ignores how difficult it can be to obtain treatment for children once they turn 18, once they become adults: “There is plenty a dying parent can do to create a safe future for a troubled child; plenty that friends or family can do when a loved one seems dangerous.”

Jellyfish taxi‪

June 1, 2017

Just a little (link) love: hedgehog boat edition


Sometimes, I give really good advice about negotiating!

A commencement speech you didn’t know we needed with a bonus song

But “graduating into a terrible world” is a wonderfuller speech

Three ways to make decisions when you’re not sure about them.

This version of separate bank accounts is a horrifying way to conduct family money

How did Houston lose track of $39M?? And Houston isn’t the only city that’s got these problems, either.

Chinese Rights Activists are jailed in secret

Amazing profile of Missy Elliott

How Houston has become the most diverse place in America

This is a gross thing that Orb is doing and I’d have a hat, sunglasses, and other disguisey things for all of us pronto:

“These cameras are used to track and identify the behaviours of everyone who walks by — you’ll find no signs up to explain this. Children are also included in their profiling, which I discovered based on a conversation I’ve had with Orb on the phone…. Ultimately, Orb are already profiling hundreds of thousands of Dubliners ever month, in great detail, without our permission, and then they selling this data to advertisers.”

Hedgehog boat

May 25, 2017

Just a little (link) love: drunk and Thor’s hammer edition


When we find our new home, we’re moving to a place to live, not to show off.

We were originally on track to pay off our first home in about 14 years. This is me getting ambitious about working the numbers, can we pay the second one off in 10? Maybe. We’ll still take a 30 year loan but there’s no way I’m settling down to take 30 years to pay it off.

Exactly how quickly we’ll do that, though, is something I’m still mulling over constantly. No answer is quite right yet. Need2Save did a great roundup on the two sides of the mortgage payoff loan here, and left me still feeling conflicted about what I want to set as my top priority.

THIS IS THE CUTEST: First Annual ‘Comedy Wildlife Photography Awards

I like this discussion of how we define financial freedom for ourselves. I’m working on our version of financial freedom which, now, means the ability to make major life changes without serious negative consequences.

This NYTimes article on relying on “daughter care” made me cross.

I love LMM and I also love his mother’s work: “Maternal health and mental healthcare are essential for mom AND baby.”

Elon Musk’s SpaceX fined for underpaying workers. Elon Musk is how wealthy? Pretty wealthy. But his company can’t comply with standard CA labor laws, instead designing shifts that deny workers their breaks?

Way to go MalwareTech

We don’t live in FEAR of earthquakes but now that we’re taking on an even bigger financial stake in property in CA where we’re due for the Big One in the next 20-30 years, I’m definitely all about emergency planning. Because natural disasters happen with regularity.

Are you worthy?

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