About sixteen years ago, I met him for the first time. My trainwreck sibling brought home this adorable puppy he had no business adopting because he had not one thing in his life that wasn’t a mess. I was furious at my sibling – he didn’t even take care of himself, how could he drag
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November 23, 2020
Week 35 of COVID in the Bay Area.
Week 35, Day 241: I’m still slightly stunned that the election was called for Biden. I spent all last week doing my best not to think about it, not allowing myself to doomscroll as usual, and it helped keep me focused even if my anxiety was still keeping me on edge.
Now we have to fight for Georgia if we want to have a hope of a functioning government for the next four years. It would be terrible to be stuck with a Republican majority Senate and Mcconnell at the reins for another Presidency. There are so many ways he’s obstructed governance and I can’t bear to think of what further harm he has up his sleeve.
Week 35, Day 242: Confession. I had a plan to invest every Tuesday this year, rain or shine, market high or market low. What’s the opposite of a slam dunk on that? I did that instead.
At first I had a good reason: I was watching the winds of COVID and the economy, and decided to bulk up our cash to cover the rental as fast as I could. That required a pause on our plans to buy every week.
But then the market gyrations were plain weird and I hadn’t formed the habit of ignoring them yet as far as buying. I’m great at not selling. I’m absolutely awesome at that. But buying when the market is up? I’m not good at that. Yes, this smells like market timing. I have a little trouble with that!
So with this confession, even though the market is up, I’m making myself go back to my Buy on Tuesdays schedule this month. There’s not much of the year left but I had transferred a decent chunk of change to our brokerage earlier this year to force the issue and will keep on investing from that.
Week 35, Day 243: Our sofa! It has arrived! We have been without a sofa for a little over a month, I think? And I really did not like that time. I’m so glad I will have a sofa to rest on, even if it’s a compromise sofa. We had to get the one that would get here before Thanksgiving and fit our living room. We had to give up on the color and exact style we wanted.
Also construction has started and that’s going to be a trial on our nerves but if we are lucky and all goes well, we will have resolved at least some part of the moisture and mold problems we’ve been fighting and even maybe have a usable portion of the backyard before the end of the year. Hope hope hope.
Week 35, Day 244: Before my internal screaming reached a peak, I made myself stop working at noon and go for a walk. That was wise but I think the wiser thing to do would be to STOP ADDING THINGS TO MY TO DO LIST.
Can we do this? Is it possible?
(I don’t know.)
Week 35, Day 245: I was so relieved for Friday even while I was annoyed at how much work was still on my plate. Ah well.
We’d had my yummy low sugar low carb cheesecake every night this week and finished it today. That’s going to make for a sad dinner tomorrow when we’re all out of dessert. I’m tempted to make another one but if I do, I should probably freeze half of it so we don’t eat it five days a week again. I’ve contemplated making it in two smaller Pyrex containers instead of a regular pie pan to make it easier to store the second one.
JB has been getting into the Octonauts show and dammit if “Creature Report” isn’t stuck in my head on repeat. Help. Me.
:: How was your week?
November 20, 2020
1. I have been so busy that somehow I’ve missed the fact that our local bookshop did actually update their blog with information on how they’re handling COVID. In some fit of pessimism, when the shop owner didn’t say much in the early weeks, I assumed he wasn’t going to adapt and the shop would shut down. I’m so glad I thought to check back on him. It turns out the community actually has been supportive enough for him to stay in business, thank goodness not everyone was as dense as I was. 🤦🏻♀️
I’ve been supporting other independent bookstores because it was easy to quickly shop online with them and they had low or free shipping but I wanted our local shop to survive too!
Anyway, I put in an order for books for our local friends for pickup.
2. I set a very ambitious date by which to wrap up (hah pun not intended) my truncated list of holiday gifts for this year. The thought of being totally done mid-November made me feel much better. It was faking a bit of control in this world that hasn’t been kind to us planners and control freaks. Having that goal to work towards was nice, even if a touch stressful as I got closer to the Nov 15 deadline and several gifts were still pending. This was important to no one but me. I don’t mind.
3. I set up a better (I think) billing system with JB’s tutor so I have less work and use up less memory. I hope their tutor finds it helpful too.
4. JB is reading like a FIEND. I have to actually restrict permission to access my comics now, not because they will fail to treat them properly, but because they can actually read words now and that means there are a lot of not age appropriate themes they’re trying to dive into.
Challenges this week: All the uncertainty everywhere. The spread of COVID that looks like our nation is absolutely on fire. Also there is simply not nearly enough warm and comfortable maternity clothing that doesn’t irritate sensitive skin and has pockets. POCKETS. MY QUEENDOM FOR POCKETS. Remote schooling is fine in principal but I hate JB’s kindergarten teacher who won’t stop lamenting about how hard things are and hyping up some unknown return to the classroom, I hate Seesaw, and I hate Chromebooks.
Also most counties in CA have been put back into the purple tier, the most restrictive one, this week and while it doesn’t materially affect our daily habits since we haven’t taken up gambling, indoor dining or mall shopping, it’s because case loads are rising very fast and that’s not good at all.
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November 17, 2020
Week 34 of COVID in the Bay Area.
Week 34, Day 234: I had a completely horrible night of sleep because of course that’s how you want to start a week that’s already going to be rough.
This recipe for Slow Cooker Meatballs in Tomato Sauce didn’t have wonderful reviews but it seemed good enough and we happened to have ground beef, ground turkey, and the other ingredients on hand so I tackled it first thing this morning. It just made sense to start early in the day so I could space the steps apart enough to not completely exhaust myself.
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November 13, 2020
1. I insisted on making this keto lemon cheesecake on Sunday. I had juuuuust enough energy to make it happen, though I couldn’t walk for a while after, and it was bliss in a pie pan. I doubled the zest in everything, and used the juice of a full lemon, not just a single tablespoon, because I wanted full on lemon flavor. PiC was happy with the lemon level but I was tempted to make it with more lemon next time. I’ll leave well enough alone though. I can’t eat a whole pie alone if I make it too lemony.
2. PiC mounted a wall clock that’s been waiting for attention for six months, and a new coat rack. Whoo!
3. He’s also going to mount old wall hooks that we’ve had for years for my use. Triple whoo!
Challenges this week: I periodically get this feeling that I have to get everything done NOW NOW NOW because of the pregnancy and that does nothing good for my stress and anxiety levels. I am pacing myself as best I can. But whew. That’s the brain problem. Physically, my hands have been swollen every night for weeks and that’s been rough. They normally get better by mid-morning but lately even that hasn’t been the case.
4. Super kind blog-Twitter friends sent us practical baby-related gifts and their thoughtfulness was so very much appreciated.
5. We are sticking to the hand me downs only rule for clothes and toys/books/no more plushies are allowed, and we’re conserving cash to buy the necessities. I figure we’re going to need a fair bit of formula since I really struggled to produce enough milk last time.
6. November brought a handful of donations for our Lakota families and I’m enthused about being able to help out one more family, though it probably isn’t good that I keep adding one more thing to my plate. I should really stop doing that. I will. I swear.
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November 10, 2020
After struggling to get things in order since we moved, 2020 has been an oddly productive year-long decluttering and organizing period.
After the 2019 winter holidays, I had a truckload of stuff to deal with: secondhand toys, books, art supplies, workbooks, clothes, and some presents. After visiting the homes of loved ones who are hoarders and just have plain too many things for anyone’s peace of mind, I was especially fired up to clear up and clear out all the things!
I asked PiC to feed me the boxes languishing in the garage from when we moved, one at a time. If we haven’t looked at them in 2 years, I’m almost certain we don’t need anything in there!
He got curious and pulled down three instead, so I took them all. I made quick work of two boxes – sorting them into a donation box and a bag of baby stuff that will go to a friend. The third has some electronics I have to figure out. I’m also sorted through another box of books that were passed on to me to donate to the library, the Little Library, and regift (the like-new copies) to young kids. (The pandemic has put a halt to the local regifting and donations for the moment, but the piles are sorted. The trick now is to keep them hidden from JB so they don’t raid it looking for things to clawback.) (more…)
November 9, 2020
Week 33 of COVID in the Bay Area.
Week 33, Day 227: I was having a bad parent day. I was in the doldrums and tired and cranky. Then I was impatient with JB for being tired and cranky and out of sorts. That’s hardly fair. It was incredibly hard to get myself on balance to avoid snapping at them for having the same feelings as I was having (but didn’t realize in the moment).
I did take them out for a short midday exercise session (with all the groaning and whining you’d expect from a tired and cranky under-6 whose parent is being stern and crabby). They did get their exercise in. So that was something.
I was trying to focus on the small good things: a small Christmas treat surprise I found for the family since we won’t travel this year. The order of gift books I placed from an independent bookstore. The spices I will soon enjoy cooking and baking with. The huge batch of ribs that are going into the freezer and will save our butts one of these days when we have nothing for dinner (which feels like most nights).
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November 6, 2020
1. I decided to do a trial of the twice a week schedule and a combo Good things and Link Love post (voila!) just to see if I like it and if it’s also a good compromise.
2. JB was surprised with a fun Halloween end of their tutoring lesson and they were so happy!
3. It’s startling to realize that sometimes we can afford to choose time over money within a reasonable limit. I used to sacrifice all kinds of time for pennies because I needed every penny and because it helped counter my anxiety that I’d end up broke if I didn’t. Now I can choose to just buy the thing when it’s 10¢ or $1 more at the store we’re already buying from rather than making a whole other trip to another store to save a total of $2.35.
4. Once in a while, I’m bitten by a much more expensive bug. There was a sale this weekend at Elhoffer Design and I absolutely love the maxi wrap dress I splurged on for myself last Christmas. It’s been so handy for the pregnancy too. Now it’s the summery maxi dresses I’m ogling because I like maxi dresses for summer but I hate that my two don’t have pockets. After JB came along, I didn’t buy new clothes for three years waiting for my weight to stabilize. I normally wouldn’t buy anything intended for months away anyway, especially with this pregnancy, but the material is very stretchy and should accommodate whatever weird size I am in the coming months easily. I have bought a few things for the maternity and nursing period as I’ve outgrown all my clothes but mostly the clothing spending has stayed low as normal. We can afford a small outlay now and again.
Challenges this week: Everyone is on tenterhooks this week as November 4th draws nearer. This week has been nothing but tumultuous between the Election and the rushed through SCOTUS confirmation that I think was absolutely despicable. Such hypocrites. If this confirmation is valid, than the blocking of Merrick Garland was not and the seating of that piece of work, Kavanaugh, should not have happened. I’m sick of McConnell and I’m sick of him making up rules to suit himself. I’m so sick of this administration.
5. I picked up a really cute teeny tiny sparkly Christmas tree for our mantel. I’ve been wanting one and it was the smallest one I’ve seen that was the right price point ($3). We also picked up several kid gifts for upcoming birthdays and before you know it, the Target Dollar Spot suckered us for almost $40. But they are fun little gifts and covers 7 kids.
6. I had been fretting about holiday gifts for local friends. Happily Penzey’s had a sale on their gift cards which was perfect because one local friend is an amazing cook and was interested in checking out their stock. One more check box marked off the list!
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