September 10, 2020

Just a little (link) love: Why Mother? edition

If you’d like to join me in helping Lakota families and/or rural libraries this year, please read this post. Over 6 weeks in 2019, we raised $2669.94 for the Lakota families, touching 27 lives. What can we do in 2020?

Current total: Lakota, $1,732.74; Rural libraries, $321.62.


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In Which Teenagers Can’t Make Phone Calls. I’m approaching 40 and I hate phone calls!

The wealth divide is just that much starker during the pandemic.

30 Years Ago, Romania Deprived Thousands of Babies of Human Contac

Some thoughtful book suggestions for high school students

Under “we deserve a break” I love Allie Brosh’s announcement.

Why, mother?

A pibble JAMMING their face into a cargo net Last photo of pibble jamming face into cargo net

September 3, 2020

Just a little (link) love: RIP Chadwick Boseman edition

If you’d like to join me in helping Lakota families and/or rural libraries this year, please read this post. Over 6 weeks in 2019, we raised $2669.94 for the Lakota families, touching 27 lives. What can we do in 2020?

Current total: Lakota, $1,732.74; Rural libraries, $321.62.


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An interview with Chadwick Boseman.

Ryan Coogler Pays Emotional Tribute to Chadwick Boseman: ”What an Incredible Mark He’s Left for Us’

Other things this week:

I recently found out that a friend had Covid and I didn’t know when she was down with is so she shared her blog post. Btw, this is one reason we get along so well: “I work from home. I don’t even want a job if I can’t do it from home. I hate going in the office, I hate the politics involved, but most of all I hate daily socializing with people I’ve already met and yes judged. I already know I’m going to dislike many of the people there because if you’ve worked a lot of jobs like me you can spot the types.”

I appreciate Cloud doing all the heavy lifting on the activism suggestions and links last week.

RIP Chadwick Boseman

August 27, 2020

Just a little (link) love: Bongo cat in space edition

If you’d like to join me in helping Lakota families and/or rural libraries this year, please read this post. Over 6 weeks in 2019, we raised $2669.94 for the Lakota families, touching 27 lives. What can we do in 2020?

Current total: Lakota, $1,732.74; Rural libraries, $321.62.


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I asked my friend in Iowa where we could donate to help the folks in Iowa who were devastated by the derecho. They recommended Feed Iowa First and Eastern Iowa Diaper Bank, among others.

So much of California is on fire

Time to Stop Normalizing the Personal Finance Unicorns

Late-Night Chitlins with Momma

There is racism even in our nurseries and Black children like mine are suffering

This piece on not requiring students to be on camera struck a nerve with me.

I Have Stage Four Cancer, But I Will Not Live Like I’m Dying.’ I can’t help but think that JB’s morbid streak comes from me because when I read articles like this, I think harder about all the ways I have to figure out how to replace all the things that I do in our family should I be out of the picture. But that’s a rather transparently desperate attempt to impose control over something you can’t control. I couldn’t replace PiC with systems and preparation if our roles were reversed. Not by a long shot.

DO YOU KNOW HOW TO READ TACOS? STEVEN ALVAREZ DOES

I enjoy manga and anime and Cooking Papa sounds like a fun one.

Twitter thread: A small publisher on profit margins

These wildlife photography encounters always make me laugh. I can’t pick a favorite.

Bongo Cat in Space

August 20, 2020

Just a little (link) love: one patient pup edition

If you’d like to join me in helping Lakota families and/or rural libraries this year, please read this post. Over 6 weeks in 2019, we raised $2669.94 for the Lakota families, touching 27 lives. What can we do in 2020?

Current total: Lakota, $1,713.62; Rural libraries, $321.62.


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The High Risk Heroics Behind Making Sure You Get New Gadgets This Fall: Reading this, I can’t help but think we have our priorities entirely wrong. THIS is the kind of effort we’ll put into manufacturing devices but not in making society a better place?

Many COVID-19 patients lost their sense of smell. Will they get it back?

Teaching Isn’t About Managing Behavior: It’s about reaching students where they really are. I don’t understand why teachers aren’t taught to teach this way to begin with, though.

One Frugal Girl is homeschooling this year and researched a lot of interesting resources. We are definitely not homeschooling but we have been managing JB’s remote education through the summer with a combination of one on one lessons given by a teacher, one-off classes online, and lots of reading and recreational writing with us. Their spelling is amazingly creative at this stage and I don’t know if that’s normal but it’s pretty funny. I would love some other creative and fun math resources from a secular company though. We picked up the Singapore math books, and JB loves those in the abstract, but gets distracted easily.

This Black women in fantasy photography is absolutely breathtaking.

I’m the worst at calmly accepting and sitting with uncertainty, it reminds me too much of the emotional whiplash of my teens and twenties when I was supporting my family and taking all the hits of their decisions. “On the flip side of every good thing is the risk that it will end.” It’s an interesting mental thing I have going on that I always gird myself against the bad times lasting forever and the good things ending unexpectedly. That comes from experiencing the loss of so many loved ones over the course of a decade, and the Great Recession and countless other bad things strung together. Their impact overshadows the very real good things that happened across that same time span. I’m working on it, and it’s progress that I recognize that even bad times surely will come to an end, but boy is it a rough journey.

I absolutely love seeing a beautiful cake (in pictures, not in person since I can’t have them – no beautifully decorated cake is ever GF and sugar free 😭😅) and if you enjoy cake design too, hie thee to Syndesi Desserts!

I had no idea that ice cream shop songs had racist origins, but now that I know, I’m glad to enjoy this new jingle.

How does An Post do it??

Good things come to those who wait

August 13, 2020

Just a little (link) love: doggy paddle edition

If you’d like to join me in helping Lakota families and/or rural libraries this year, please read this post. Over 6 weeks in 2019, we raised $2669.94 for the Lakota families, touching 27 lives. What can we do in 2020?

Current total: Lakota, $1,713.62; Rural libraries, $321.62.


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KassandraDasent on what the Black Tax really is at FemmeFrugality‘s blog.

K. Wright on money five months into the pandemic.

I struggled for years to get adequate care for my chronic pain so reading about the decades-long and systemic dismissal of Black women’s pain and illness by the medical establishment is absolutely infuriating. We all deserve better than this.

Immunology Is Where Intuition Goes to Die

The Role of Cognitive Dissonance in the Pandemic: “One of us (Aronson), who was a protégé of Festinger in the mid-’50s, advanced cognitive-dissonance theory by demonstrating the powerful, yet nonobvious, role it plays when the concept of self is involved. Dissonance is most painful when evidence strikes at the heart of how we see ourselves—when it threatens our belief that we are kind, ethical, competent, or smart. The minute we make any decision—I’ll buy this car; I will vote for this candidate; I think COVID-19 is serious; no, I’m sure it is a hoax—we will begin to justify the wisdom of our choice and find reasons to dismiss the alternative. Before long, any ambivalence we might have felt at the time of the original decision will have morphed into certainty. As people justify each step taken after the original decision, they will find it harder to admit they were wrong at the outset. Especially when the end result proves self-defeating, wrongheaded, or harmful.”

Winter is coming: Why America’s window of opportunity to beat back Covid-19 is closing: “Unless Americans use the dwindling weeks between now and the onset of “indoor weather” to tamp down transmission in the country, this winter could be Dickensianly bleak, public health experts warn.

I’m looking around and I think it’s pretty clear Americans are going to completely squander what’s left of our opportunity to get this thing under control. Americans continue to amaze me in all the wrong and terrible ways.

I needed some good stuff:

"You are enough, right now, for your next step."

What a lovely affirmation! The video is worth watching, I just had to take a screencap for folks who don’t click through links: https://twitter.com/pearlsnappea/status/1291878131880665095?s=19

This thread led me to this designer’s collection which is absolutely gorgeous. I’ve never seen a collection of dresses where I loved almost every single one of the creations. Just some really lovely eye candy.

I fell in love with this adorable stamp shop.

A 2-year old profile of Seanan McGuire. I adore every Incryptid story she’s ever written even though some make me sad because they’re too short. I can’t handle the Wayward Children books right now but that’s mostly because of where I am in life and also pandemic. Middlegame was spooky good and spooky and good.

This is how I dog paddle

August 6, 2020

Just a little (link) love: Sleeping seal edition

If you’d like to join me in helping Lakota families and/or rural libraries this year, please read this post. Over 6 weeks in 2019, we raised $2669.94 for the Lakota families, touching 27 lives. What can we do in 2020?

Current total: Lakota, $1,713.62;Rural libraries, $321.62.


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I’m a long time Angry Little Asian Girls fan and I need this “I hate people” design in pretty much everything – this is 2020 in a nutshell.

MIXED + PASSING – LET’S TALK ABOUT RACE

You Don’t Batch Cook When You’re Suicidal (formerly: The Price Of Potatoes & The Value Of Compassion)

This cat puts up with so much scruffing.

Fiction: Grandmother Beetroot

Indian Matchmaker: Two of my most profound decisions in life made a lot of sense: first, to exit my community in search of companionship, and second, to exit marital companionship, to not marry at all. When the game itself is dirty, why yell at a mirror pointed at it, reflecting the moves for all to see?

This gorgeous blanket octopus!

Sounds of a sleeping seal

July 30, 2020

Just a little (link) love: Master Splinter bear edition

If you’d like to join me in helping Lakota families and/or rural libraries this year, please read this post. Over 6 weeks in 2019, we raised $2669.94 for the Lakota families, touching 27 lives. What can we do in 2020?

Current total: Lakota, $1,713.62; Rural libraries, $321.62.


Just a little link love

K. Wright’s right: The Privilege of ‘Always Negotiate’ I have always advocated for myself and negotiated for more money, but it doesn’t always work, it doesn’t always work to the degree that I hope or want or deserve, and I know that more than a few people would penalize me for even asking. I’ve had a strange combination of luck where the workplaces are incredibly toxic but either I had the backing of a strong advocate or they felt like their hands were tied so they had to give me more but they also punished me for it.

I’m not at all surprised that Courtney Milan’s white doctor husband gets no pushback when he stands up for patients’ rights to refuse an exam vs Michele Harper’s experience but I am utterly and completely disgusted with law enforcement and her trainee and her former colleagues who obviously did not have an issue with violating patients’ rights.

Related: I also think that the officer and watch commander should have been personally liable for their actions in arresting Utah nurse Alex Wubbels when she refused to comply with their illegal demands, not just fired and demoted. Maybe that’s what it takes to get officers of the law to actually respect the law they’re supposed to uphold.

Also related: I am so incredibly tired of terrible people.

I hope white people stay out there screaming this truth until it finally breaks the police and federal government brutality.

Brave Saver: “This is the core of what enrages me about traditional financial advice: it actively harms people. There are so many of us who read or hear personal finance advice that leaves us feeling ashamed, worthless, hopeless, and filled with despair. And how can we move forward when the solutions we seek all turn into emotional and mental blocks?” Note – I didn’t have this problem when I was using blogs as a resource 12-10 years ago but the PF world I delved into and loved was incredibly different then. It was almost all stories about people working through their struggles, it wasn’t all this making money off their platform How To and pushing an agenda.

Purple was surprised that she hit her FIRE number this year after all.

Yay for Kitty and paying off her mortgage! I wistfully think: gosh that’d sure be nice and also: gosh but I’m not willing to dump all our cash into the black hole of our mortgage because it needs so much to make it happy.

BABY RED PANDA AT OREGON ZOO!!!!

Bloodlines: short fiction by @etwurth

I cannot carry a tune in a bucket so I admire those who can. I don’t enjoy talent shows and reality shows as a rule but happened across ten year old Souparknika Nair’s Britain’s Got Talent audition and her voice just blew me away.

I hope this bear is doing this for fun

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