About sixteen years ago, I met him for the first time. My trainwreck sibling brought home this adorable puppy he had no business adopting because he had not one thing in his life that wasn’t a mess. I was furious at my sibling – he didn’t even take care of himself, how could he drag
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February 21, 2010
I’m a bit of a klutz. I accidentally closed the Random number generator screen, when I was trying to take a screen capture of it, but the winner of the Uprinting Giveaway is …..
#1 Investing Newbie!
Congratulations! I’m passing along your info to the Uprinting folks.
February 19, 2010
My sous chef wouldn’t allow me to display all of yesterday’s haul in its true glory (and stole one of the grapefruits).
Though I love farmer’s markets, I usually hate mornings. The latter lends itself to instant gratification -it’s SO much easier to snuggle back under the covers after my frosty nose tests the air, generally, so I’m grateful to local produce markets that offer fresh selections at great prices when I emerge from my den, starving.
What came home with me?
2 huge bundles of spinach
2 slender bunches of asparagus
1 bundle of green onions
1 gorgeous head of broccoli
1 less gorgeous cauliflower
1 large bunch of green grapes (in the bowl)
3 grapefruits
4 Roma tomatoes
2 minneolas
6 bell peppers (trying to stand up in the back)
How much did it cost?
$18.24
I’ll also use the spinach in salads, and in some Indian recipes I’m hoping to make with a native cook-friend next week. The broccoli is wonderful steamed and maybe dotted with a little cheese — that was the first solid food I ate after my dental debacle two weeks ago!
P.S. the Chicken and Roasted Peppers turned out rather well ….
February 18, 2010
My regular decluttered clothing gets donated because it’s serviceable everyday stuff, but I’ve usually got nothing of Name Brand status that would hold up in a consignment shop except … all those bridesmaid dresses! At least six gowns of varying lengths and styles are in great condition and deserve to be worn again. (Well, one or two are of questionable style, but I know there’s someone out there to love it anyway.)
I may keep one or two just in case I have to attend anything formal again.
I searched for a good consignment shop either locally or somewhere not too far a lope in California, any recommendations would be quite welcome, but all the semi-local shops have closed up and gone online. I’d be 100% for the virtual consignment experience if I weren’t awkwardly sized.
Y’see, my bridesmaid dresses were all ordered in Junior Bridesmaid sizes, and frequently tailored to fit. That means it’d take a fairly small person to wear my clothes without passing out. I’d rather sell them in a place where the customer has a chance to try on the dress. Still, returns (if allowed) aren’t really my problem, right? So that’s one option.
Another possibility would be to look into Asian-centric shops to see if they would carry the dresses. My concerns with that method are twofold: most shops want to carry their own inventory, not used and tailored pieces; and (don’t hate me they’re my people and I know how they are!) I don’t like the way Asians do business in that town. Unless they were vouched for by one of the very few people I trust, I wouldn’t trust them. Heck, I don’t trust a lot of my blood relatives, their morals are too “what’s-in-it-for-me?”
From bitter experience as a consumer – much less in a business transaction where they give me the money – many of the folks who live and work immersed in this particular predominantly Asian community surrounded by their native kinfolk are stubborn and the idea of “customer service” is completely foreign to them. It’s not unusual for them to decide to completely change your order, be it housewares, gifts, or flowers for your wedding because “I thought this was better.” No, no, you found something cheaper!
*This actually happened several times to my bride-friend. She was far too nice, I would have lost my temper the second time that crazy shop owner thought to pass off an inferior product as a better choice for the same price.
But I digress.
The last option I’m considering is taking the pile to one of the resale shops on Melrose. Something like Plato’s Closet or Buffalo Exchange, but more upscale since those two chains specialize in casual wear. Not too upscale like the designer/new-only shops, but an eclectic shop that accepts formalwear. The very helpful young lady at Buffalo Exchange suggested a shop near her own: Wasteland.
Their recording describes year-round purchasing, seasonally, and an upfront pricing of your clothing with an immediate cash payment at 35% of their retail price. This sounds like the standard pricing policy across all the consignment shops I canvassed. If I sell with them, I’d be best served waiting until near prom season since I’m pretty sure I’ve missed Homecoming.
I briefly considered selling them on the blog, but …. dresses are so much more difficult than bags, shoes, or jewelry, aren’t they?
None of these options will be more than a pittance of the original money spent, but it’ll open up at least a foot of closet space and these pieces should go to good homes which is another version of repurposing.
February 15, 2010
Did you know it’s Girl Scout Cookie season? Carolyn and I were tweeting about it a while ago, I think.
Those with the connections have already placed their orders whilst others have had to eagerly await the intrepid entrepreneurs setting up their tables outside grocery stores. Alas, I’ve lost contact with my main dealer who would deliver so I’ve been waiting to buy retail with the latter group.
But you know what? I’ve been out there. Nary a Scout to be found. What happened??
It’s not an addiction anymore, but I do like to have two boxes of Trefoils on hand a year. They’re my indulgence. Of course, they don’t hold a candle to Walker’s Shortbread, but neither my arteries nor my wallet can afford that particular goody in high quantities.
Happily, I’ve got a friend who has never met a Girl Scout Cookie table he wasn’t willing to fund, so heaven help his finances but every Girl Scout with a quota should set up shop near him. It’s a guaranteed $20 sale, every time. He doesn’t even eat them, he just wants to support the Scouts and make the kids happy.
That means his ordered boxes of Trefoils will be my Trefoils.
My preciouses ……
February 14, 2010
Tidbits of Tradition
My Korean brow tamer tells me of a tradition in Korea wherein Valentine’s Day is the day women buy chocolates for the men, and a man may reciprocate by paying for dinner on a Valentine’s Day date. A month later, the tables turn and on March 14th, White Day, men are the gift-givers and must select a gifts to reciprocate to the woman (or not, if his heart ‘clines in another direction). Yet a month later, Black Day gathers up all the singles who didn’t give or receive on either Valentine’s Day or White Day for a mourn-your-singledom dinner with black noodles.

Yesterday was Lunar New Year Eve, and half conscious, I heard some family drop by early in the morning to dispense with the traditional home visits. My cousin and her young children brought back a flood of memories of my childhood. Our family had a set tradition brought from the homeland that’s changed slightly over the years, but not too much. Once upon a time, the Lunar New Year was the Winter Break in our nook of Vietnam. Businesses went dark, families kept their quarrels safely behind their teeth, a set of new clothing was bought (or made) for every individual to wear once they’d literally swept the old year over the threshold.
The lunar celebration spanned at least a week, usually two. Families made house calls. Adults drank tea together, while the children were taught to wish their elders a formal Happy New Year, happiness, health and wealth. Each successful well wisher was rewarded with a red envelope.
That practice came to the States with my family, and I absolutely hated it. Shaking with stage fright, despite only addressing close relatives I spent time with frequently, I would gladly have forfeited the red envelopes and the hoard of cash to avoid mumbling, stumbling, as I followed my glib sib’s silver tongue and brash declarative act, embarrassed and discomfited by the staring eyes.
Once everyone had paid and been paid, food and the gambling! We had kiddy games, die with animals printed on all the sides, kind of like craps. The adults played blackjack, because Grandma loved it, and a complicated card game using tiny colored strips with printed Chinese, because Grandma loved it.
Grandma unabashedly whupped our butts every year in card games, thus thoroughly unseating any notion that gambling could be profitable. And it wasn’t for the sake of teaching us a lesson, I’ll tell you that much, she just liked winning.
Over the years, the practice of parading the children in front of a grinning group of adults has eased up. The nuclear family groups have sprouted entire new branches and bringing the old group together would be nigh-on impossible. But then again, this generation wouldn’t really mind. Born and raised in a highly affirmative environment, they lack nothing, least of all confidence, and claiming the red envelope for showing off is a matter of due course. Kids these days. 😉
Possibly my favorite (for now) part of that tradition is that, in my family, red envelopes are given until you’ve married. At that point, you’re considered a true adult and then become an envelope giver. My friends alternately gripe that it’s a disincentive to marry and that they want to incorporate that into their families. Evidently some families cut you off once you’re earning an adult’s income.
I just smile. There are memories sacred to every family.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got to call my cousin and wish her Happy New Year, and thank her for delivering red envelopes I didn’t earn.
Edit: And chiming in for the Japanese tradition, see FB’s comment below, and hailing From Japan With Love:
“In Japan, Valentine’s Day is a bit different. The tradition here is that girls/women give chocolate to guys (girls get a present from those guys in March on “white day” -they get white gifts like white chocolate, marshmallow covered chocolate etc). Also, there is “giri choco” which basically means “obligation chocolate”. Women give chocolate to their bosses or some other important men in their lives-this is expected and has a long tradition in Japan.
But what is a new trend in Japan is “tomo choco” meaning “friendship chocolate” and according to a recent survey 74 percent of women plan to give a Valentine’s gift to a female friend but only 32 percent intended to buy something for a boyfriend. In another survey a chocolate maker surveyed 500 women and 92% said they had received tomo choco from a friend last year. And of these women, only 11.2 percent said they plan to give chocolates to a someone they love.”
February 12, 2010
I’ve got a queue of things to give away, but as we’re well into tax season during which people swear to start better recordkeeping, and it’s still the first quarter of the year, I think it’s practical to start with tools for organization and business.
**You may enter both giveaways, you just need to tailor your entries for each one! I’m keeping track of entries separately so you have equal chances for either prize.**
Free one-year subscription to the upgraded online PearBudget
Value: $36
Co-founder Charlie Park was kind enough to drop by and let me know that all my major objections to the software had been addressed in the online version and offered me a free subscription as well as one for my readers. I encourage you to drop by and try their 30-day free subscription to decide if you like it. You won’t need a credit card for the free trial.
How to Enter:
(One entry) Leave a comment including “Pearbudget,” your name and a valid email address.
Tell me about your current tracking system and what you love and hate about it.
(One entry) Follow me and tweet this ONCE
“Win a Pearbudget subscription from @RevancheGS: http://bit.ly/aV8AMp”
(Two entries) Blog about this giveaway
Link back in a comment to let me know.
(Two entries) Subscribe to my feed (If you already subscribe, let me know in a comment)
And lure in a new reader who would sincerely like this blog and hang out for good times. Actually I have no idea how you’d do the latter, so instead you can regale me with a story about how you would have done, if you could have.
Rules and Restrictions
1. I will select a winner at random using a number generator.
2. My decisions are final.
3. Pearbudget is responsible for changing your account to a free account for a year after I select a winner.
4. Open to anyone with an internet connection.
5. Giveaway closes 11:59 pm PST, March 2nd.
500 business cards from Uprinting
Uprinting’s at it again, so for those of you who still haven’t snagged a set of business cards for yourself or your blog, you have a chance to win a fairly snazzy set here.
The Specs:
Sizes: 2 x 3.5”, 2 x 3”, 2 x 2” (square card) or 1.5 x 3.5” (skinny card)
Paper: 14 pt gloss cardstock, 14 pt matte cardstock or 13 pt recycled uncoated cardstock
Specifications: Full Color Both Sides; Offset Press; 3 Business Day Printing
The ordering process should be pretty simple (though playing with the template designs might take you a while). I was pleasantly surprised when I ordered business cards online the first time around, though it was with another company. If you like, you can check out what other swag and doodads you can order and print online at their site.
How to Enter:
(One entry) Leave a comment including “Uprinting,” your name and a valid email address.
Tell me what you’re going to do with the other 400 cards because, let’s face it, I’ve never given away more than 100 of any set of business cards ever.
(One entry) Follow me and tweet this ONCE
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(Two entries) Blog about this giveaway
Link back in a comment to let me know.
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Come back and tell me a funny story. (Optional)
Rules and Restrictions
1. Open to US residents only. (Sorry guys! They’re paying for shipping, I don’t have a say in this.)
2. I will select a winner at random using a number generator.
3. My decisions are final.
4. Uprinting is responsible for everything that comes after I pick a winner and tell them who to reward.
5. Giveaway closes 11:59 pm PST, February 20th.
Disclosure: There may be something in it for me in exchange for posting this giveaway, but I don’t know what it is yet, or if I’ll even accept it.
February 11, 2010
In a previous post, Pets and money: where do you draw the line?, we talked about a situation where a family had to choose between necessities and a pet’s health. The woman literally didn’t know how she was going to feed her kids, but with an unemployed husband, she still brought home a sick puppy.
I’m an animal lover, as my “retirement plan” clearly indicates, but I’m also a very practical person as my blog shows. At no point would I ever want to be faced with an either/or situation when it comes to the health of my family, including the furry, wet-nosed and four-footed members.
Knowing what I do about the costs of health care for animals, I could not, in good conscience, take on any more pets without a solid pet fund. Saying that aloud makes me feel like a Murphy’s target was just painted on my back.
I recommend being proactive: get an emergency kit and fund put together. You never know when an incident may strike and if it’s minor, a kit could save you an expensive visit to the vet’s office.
Lemons and the case for an animal emergency kit
So many people think: “it couldn’t happen to me. My pet is calm, quiet, and well-behaved, he/she/it wouldn’t ever need emergency anything.” Once in a while, that’s true. Some pets can go his/her/its entire life without needing more than routine maintenance. It’s a rarity, though.
I’m a mutt-lover. Each of my three dogs were a variation on a Mutt, and only one of them developed truly life-threatening health problems later in life. I was lucky enough to be working at a clinic at the time and he received top-notch care at a discount, but there were times I knew that, as a regular client, I would have been forced to make a final decision based on cost. Even with a 75% discount, I spent more than $3,000 on him on an $18,000 salary. My other two live(d) unnaturally long lives – the chihuahua lasted about 18 years, the large breed mix is still hobbling along at 15 years of age. We probably only have a few, if that many, years left together.
Some people believe in the power of the purebred. They think that good bloodlines are security, a bit of insurance against the run of the mill illnesses that plague mixed breeds, mutts, and scruffy rescues. To some degree, they’re right. They’re very unlikely to get a Parvo Pup from a reputable breeder – though there aren’t any such guarantees if you’re dealing with a disreputable breeder or even worse, a puppy mill.
But the thing purebreds have going for (or against) them is the predictability of their breeds. Labs have hip dysplasia, Dachshunds and other long, low-riders have spinal problems, Great Danes have gastric torsion, white Boxers are highly prone to cancer and lots of it. None of these mean that every purebred’s fate is set in stone, it just means they’re highly prone to specific illnesses.
What you don’t get in that list of “what they’re prone to” is the list of “what else could happen.”
GB: the cautionary tale
My dear friends bought a very Marleyesque dog, we’ll call him GB for the Good Boy he really tries to be. The cost of just bringing GB home was several hundred dollars, a cost that my pound/rescue supporting self will withhold comment on. They spent hundreds on puppy obedience training, a crate, beds, pens, and all the other conveniences.
The trouble started when GB got home. He was so excited and happy that he had to explore everything and everywhere, and everywhere bought him a big swollen bite on the face. It could have been a spider or insect bite, either way, he looked like one of those hugely magnified Hallmark cards. Off to the vet! Hundreds of dollars and a few shots later, his swelling went down and he worked up a rash instead.
For two weeks he was on antibiotics to treat the rash, infected because GB wouldn’t stop scratching at it, and then his immune system went haywire. He’d never had reactions to his vaccines before but after the bite, he was highly allergic to the vaccines and his vet decreed No More.
Life settled down a bit. I was asked for advice on some suspicious looking pink fleshy scabby things on his face, it seemed to be ok. For any other dog. Knowing GB, I sent them back to the vet anyway and sure enough, more meds. Surprisingly, GB was still in the neighborhood of sub $10,000 at this juncture but he’s nothing if not high-achieving.
A few months later, he couldn’t keep anything down. I didn’t hear about it for about a day, but as they became concerned, my phone started to ring. “Something to do with GB? Yes, take him to the vet.”
X-rays revealed that in his love of turf, he’d scarfed a tiny bit of netting with the grass and it had gotten caught somewhere on the way down to form a little net. Like a sieve, this one inch piece of netting cupped and blocked his intestinal tract, only allowing liquid to pass through. Three cups of dog foods a day came right back up. Two surgeries, another $10,000 later, and GB was sent home with orders to gain 20 pounds during recovery.
He’s had other incidents, like chronic ear infections for his love of swimming with his head underwater, but I’m just grateful he made it through his first year.
He’s a big ticket dog, for which a dog/pet health fund would be highly recommended as part of your arsenal as a pet owner. Pet insurance is always a consideration but it can be hit or miss. I think the decision whether or not to carry pet insurance depends on your cash flow, earning and saving power, and the extent and quality of the coverage offered.
On the more prosaic front, GB managed to injure himself again over the holidays, again sending his parents screaming for my help. Luckily, it was one of the easiest things in his medical history to deal with: a broken dewclaw. The dewclaw on a dog is that thumb-like nail that actually doesn’t serve a purpose but to get broken, chewed on, or hung up on things. The canine’s external appendix, if you will.
For that, I just needed a pair of dog nail clippers, gauze, medical tape and some powder to stop up the bleeding. After clipping off the shattered nail, I wrapped him up and sent him, fat-pawed and resentful, on his way. An emergency visit for that would have cost them at least $100 for the late night visit and then a bit more for simple treatment.
I’d recommend having a Pet Kit on hand for some of the more routine things that your pet could require. My own held the following:
1. Nail clippers. Not the ones that look/act like a guillotine, my dogs hated those. The ones that were more like scissors. They’re easier to control and less uncomfortable for the pet. These are good for basic maintenance, and for situations like GB’s.
2. Cotton balls, long Qtips, and gauze. Pets get into stuff, getting scratches, scrapes and all over in dirt, grass and blood. They’re kind of like kids that way. It’s easier to assess the situation when they’re cleaned up. Long Q-tips are great for keeping ears clean, especially if you’ve got a chronic ear infection on legs. (We did.) Water dogs should also have cotton stuffed in their ears to help protect them from ear infections as well – be sure to check with your vet before you do anything like that, though!
3. Medical tape or wrap that sticks to itself. I used Vetwrap which is like a hybrid between Saran Wrap and medical tape.
4. Towels/rags: Always useful after baths, wrapping up the bedraggled, and containing messes (ahem, vomit).
$$$$
As far as a pet fund goes, I’d be most comfortable with having at least $1,000 per pet assuming I’m still maintaining an outsized amount of cash on hand. If not, I’d like to have closer to $5,000 squirreled away per pet. They can borrow from one another but I don’t like to take for granted that they’ll take turns being sick or injured.
Disclaimer: I’m not a veterinarian- I cannot diagnose your pets. When in doubt, please see your vet.